Wednesday, May 31, 2006

Books I Have Read in the Past Year

  • Night by Elie Wiesel
  • The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck
  • Typical American by Gish Jen
  • Falling Leaves: The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter by Adeline Yen Man
  • Hundred Secret Senses by Amy Tan
  • One Man's Bible by Gao Xingjian
  • The Lost Daughters of China by Karin Evans

I have to say I have enjoyed each of these books. I think my favorites are The Good Earth and Night. Though I really like the way Gish Jen writes. Typical American was a very different story that had a nice rhythm to the writing. I am currently reading One Man's Bible. Gao Xingjian is the first Chinese recipient of the Nobel Prize for Literature. I am on chapter 6, so I have a long way to go. The writing style has taken a little getting used to.

Now, I have many, many other books with my children and students as well. A few of the children's books... not pictures books, I have read this year are:
  • The Ravenmaster's Secret: Escape from the London Tower by Elvira Woodruff
  • How Tia' Lola Came to (Visit) Stay by Julia Alvarez
  • Granny Torelli Makes Soup
  • The Million Dollar Kick by Dan Gutman
  • Gooney Bird Greene by Lois Lowry
  • The Power of Un
  • Owen Foote Super Spy by Stephanie Greene

Now, for picture books, since I read these with Riley, it is so different. He loves to have the same books read over and over again. A few of his favorites are:
  • The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle
  • Bob's Birthday
  • Blue Goes to the Dentist
  • Firetrucks
  • Shaoey and Dot
  • ANYTHING Elmo

Tuesday, May 30, 2006

Where to Start?

Well, I have decided to take a teaching position in our neighborhood school. Now, as great as that sounds it comes with a lot of extra.... stress. Here is why:
  1. The school is in a different school district than where I currently teach.
  2. Riley would have to change schools... not sure if we can get him in to the neighborhood school.
  3. No Gifted program at neighborhood school for James. A decision would have to be made whether to send him to the school that has Gifted or have him attend neighborhood school.
  4. I would have to figure out how to stay covered under Health insurance until new insurance kicks in.
  5. We would have to find a speech pathologist to come to our home at least once a week for articulation. (Hopefully a cheap one!!!)
  6. I would no longer be able to take a paid leave upon returning from China. This is a biggie!!!!! We are already in a bind and this change makes leave much more tricky.
Now, that being said there is just so much more to this saga:
  • All of my teaching materials are at my old school. Everything would have to be moved home asap... prior to resigning from the district.
  • Once I resign, if Riley can't get into an appropriate program here, we have to find a program for him not affiliated with the school district.
  • I have to get all new paperwork for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers if I intend to continue working on game days. I do want to keep working for them. I don't know if the new district has a problem with this.
By the way, did I tell you Jerry just received a promotion and has changed schools? I am so proud of him. This is a good thing but it also keeps Riley from returning to his school from last year. It was 5 minutes from Jerry's school.

Things I have to do:
  1. Move my stuff
  2. Wait for referral
  3. Register the boys
  4. Father's Day gift
  5. Second Hep. immunizations for boys
  6. wait for referral
  7. Buy June Secret Pal gift... what was the theme again???
  8. Get my bloodwork done and schedule Dr. appointment
  9. Resign
  10. Complete new district employee paperwork
  11. wait for referral some more
  12. Get a haircut. I don't even remember when I had my last haircut. I am thinking it was in October when my MIL passed away.
  13. Work on nursery.
  14. Find Speech Pathologist
  15. Contact Tampa Bay Buccaneers
  16. Decide James' school situation
  17. Wait for referral
  18. Shop for clothes. How does one do this with two boys in tow?? James is getting a tad bit too old to go in the dressing room with me, yet I don't like leaving him where I can't see him.
Okay... maybe by just writing about my feelings of being overwhelmed it will help. Sometimes I would like to have a friend to talk about all of this with.

Sunday, May 28, 2006

No Tiara



Yes, I have no tiara. I have no tiara today.

This is the disagreement I am having with the gentlemen in my life. As you can see from the picture above I am currently the sole female in my house. I believe that earns me the right to be the princess of the house. My boys disagree. I think that if I have to live with so much testosterone I am due a tiara. No one will let me buy one! I think I would look absolutely amazing in a sparkling tiara perched ever so delicately on my head.

Now, don't get me wrong, when Madeline arrives I will gladly pass on my title of princess to her. (Does that make me the Queen????) I think when one is as outnumbered as I am.. it is really the RIGHT thing to do. Let Mom be the princess. Treat her like a princess. No burping or passing gas at the dinner table... for the delicate princess is there. No running around naked.. for the princess is there. No touching or throwing gross things... for the princess is there!

Hmmm... what do you think?

Friday, May 26, 2006

Riley and Mom

We celebrated our two year milestone of bringing Riley home on May
22nd. As I look back at our time in China and right after we came
home there are a few things that I would love to share with everyone.
For those of you who have BTDT, this is old stuff... but thought I
would share.

While in China, Riley was 100% a Mommy's boy. He stayed very close to
me at all times. He didn't really cry at all. He was very quiet and
EXTREMELY well behaved. The majority of the other families in our
travel group dealt with grieving babies who only wanted Daddy. This
was very hard on the Mommy's. For several days some of the babies
would cry uncontrollably if left with their moms. I felt so lucky in
that regard.

When we g ot home, the tables turned. Riley tolerated me when he had
to be alone with me... which was a lot since I stayed home with him
for 5 months! If he got hurt, he wanted Daddy. If he was sleepy, he
snuggled Daddy. He kissed and hugged Daddy. He did not and would not
show me any signs of affection. It nearly broke my heart. I would
cry. I constantly had to tell myself... this little guy has gone
through more than I can ever begin to wrap my brain around. I now
understood what the other moms went through in China.

Thanksgiving weekend... a change happened. Yes, 6 MONTHS LATER! On
the Friday after Thanksgiving, Riley was sitting on Daddy's lap with
his blankie and milk snuggled all in. All of a sudden, he climbed
down from Daddy's lap and climbed up onto mine. He snuggled in and
drank his milk. He wrapped my arms around him. Needless to say, I
cried and cr ied. For some reason, that was the right time for him to
accept me as his mother.

Since that day I have received kisses, hugs and I love yous daily. He
allows me to soothe him, love on him and rock him. He falls asleep in
my arms.

Our babies will go through their own individual experiences. As much
as it breaks our hearts to think our babies don't know the love we
have for them... it can be a slow bonding process. Already I have
begun to prepare myself for a long bonding period. Now when I look
back I realize 6 months was nothing. At the time it felt as if Riley
would never love me.

If I can give one piece of advice it would be to remember that love
takes time. We have had what feels like an eternity to fall in love
with our babies. Our babies will not even know who we are when they
are placed in our arms. I learned that, truly, love takes time.

Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Wait and Emotions Run High

During this extended wait I am sad to see so many emotions running high. Now, don't get me wrong. I am frustrated, depressed, OVER the unknown and more... What I don't understand is all the "flaming". It seems that everyone is ready to jump all over everyone else. (Of course, everyone is a relative term.) I think it is okay for people to voice that they are over the wait without someone feeling the need to be Mary Sunshine on their pity party. Sometimes the entire pity party is just voicing your frustrations.


Okay... YES I know everything will happen when it is supposed to happen. That, for me, does not make today's wait easier. Also, and I am just spewing my own opinion here, I don't think we should ever cram faith down someone else's throat. Someone can have faith and lead by example. From what I have learned over my 40 years on this planet... lectures don't change beliefs. As an adult, if someone attempts to lecture me on morals and right from wrong, I am most likely going to ignore them. That being said, if someone leads by example then I am more prone to self-reflection.

I think it is okay for someone to state that they turn to God for support. I also think it is okay for someone else to say they turn to others for support. I think it is NOT okay for us to turn against each other and be judgemental.

Sometimes I think what keeps me as an example setter instead of a prothlisizer (sp) is that beliefs are personal. We are not each others parents. We are just strangers, yes strangers, going through a common experience and turning to the only other people we know of who are going through this at the same time.

Each of us has a different home experience. Each of us has a different faith base. Each of us has a different family experience, history and life. Each of us has the right to our own opinions without someone pushing their personal agenda. Agenda is a strong term... but the push seems to be stronger. I want to have people to comiserate with without the fear of the agenda push. My faith is MINE. My values are MINE. My reasons for adopting are MINE. My wait experience is MINE.

Selfish... you betcha!


Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Miracles

Miracles

-ten fingers and toes
-infectious giggle
-unyielding love
-patient reflection
-sleeping soundly
-rocking softly
-rolling playfully
-singing loudly
-itsy, bitsy
-row, row, rowing
-planting the seed
-blooming and blossoming
-opinions
-self-assured
-wanting more
-needing less
-wishing on a star
-thanking another
-accepting sacrifices
-acknowledging independence
-unique perserverence

Being a mother I get to watch miracles daily.

World Record!

I am thinking that we may make a world record in regards to our wait for Madeline. At DTC, which was 7/22/05, we were told to expect a 6 month wait. When our LID wasn't until 8/24/05 I thought we may have set a record for the longest wait to LID. We are now about 9 months out from LID with no sign of referral in sight.

Here are my guesses:
1. August referral - 12 month wait This is probably not very realistic, but it sure would be nice. We would travel in mid October. October travel could be tricky with holidays and trade fairs!

2. September referral - 13 month wait This could happen, but who knows. We would probably travel sometime in November. Hmmm... wonder if winter weather will be full force by then???

3. October referral - 14 month wait I am guessing this is probably semi-realistic. I can't imagine how we would pull of the whole Santa Claus thing while in China since we are planning on taking the boys with us.

4. I can't even begin to imagine anything beyond this time frame. It seriously upsets my stomach!


I would love to hear what others "really" think... not what any agency is saying... just your gut feelings.

I am doing everything in my power to not get depressed. I have only completed a few small things in the nursery. I am thinking of moving forward with it in order to keep some positive chi in our lives.

Monday, May 22, 2006

Your Linguistic Profile::
70% General American English
10% Upper Midwestern
10% Yankee
5% Midwestern
0% Dixie

When Love Takes You In

When Love Takes You In
by Steven Curtis Chapman

I know you've heard the stories
But they all sound too good to be true
You've heard about a place called home
But there doesn't seem to be one for you
So one more night you cry yourself to sleep
And drift off to a distant dream
Where love takes you in
And says 'you belong here'
The loneliness ends and a new life begins
When love takes you In

And somewhere while your sleeping
Someone else is dreaming too
They're counting down the days until
They hold you close and say 'I love you'
And like the rain that falls into the sea
In a moment what has been
Is lost in what will be
When love takes you in
Everything changes
A miracle starts with the beat of a heart
And this love will never let you go
There is nothing that could ever cause this love
To loose its hold

When love takes you in
Everything changes
A miracle starts with the beat of a heart
When love takes you home
And says you belong here
The loneliness ends
And a new life begins
When love takes you in
It takes you in for good

When love takes you in

The Story of the Dragon Boat Festival

When our calendar flips to May 31 next Wednesday, Chinese people will
celebrate Double Fives Day, the fifth day of the fifth lunar month, the
Dragon Boat Festival.

A CHINESE PATRIOT

The Dragon Boat Festival is celebrated in many places around the world on
different dates, and for many the event is all about the excitement of the
colorful races. But just as you might want to teach your kids about the
great patriots in the history of your country, Double Fives Day is a
teaching moment to learn about a revered and selfless Chinese patriot and
poet, Qu Yuan, a man no less devoted to his country than George Washington
to the new United States. To learn about Qu Yuan is to taste a little of the
flavor of Chinese history.

THE ZHOU DYNASTY

About 3,000 years ago, long before Christ walked the earth, in the year 1046
BC the Zhou dynasty took over the land we now know as China. The Shang
dynasty had been in power nearly 500 years, developing a system of writing,
establishing the religion of ancestor worship by the royal class, and had
been in a constant state of warfare to expand the territory, which was
smaller than the China we know today.

The Zhou ushered in a long period of peace and prosperity in China and would
reign, sort of, for about 800 years. The arts and philosophies flourished.
Along with peace came a change in how the land was managed - central control
was relinquished because the land was too large to be properly managed from
one place. Royal relatives and trusted appointees were sent to manage
various regions of the country, and this worked well for a long time.

THE WARRING STATES PERIOD

As years and generations passed in China under the Zhou dynasty, and
management of dispersed regions was passed from one local ruler to
successors, those local rulers began to resent having to send all their tax
money to the Zhou emperor. They began to think of themselves as kings, they
began to think of the local army as their own, and they began to covet the
land and resources of adjoining provinces.

Inevitably, war broke out in China. But not just a war between a few forces,
war emerged among hundreds of fiefdoms. Eventually 7 strong states emerged
and settled in to fight one another again and again. This is now called the
Warring States period which lasted nearly 400 years.

From the vantage point of history, we can look at the Warring States period
in China as a passing phase. But to the people who were living it, their
state was their country, and their family might experience many generations
of nothing but war as they fought for the advantage and protection of their
own country.

The people's weariness with war was reflected in the arts and philosophy of
the time, and there was a nostalgic yearning for a return to the peace known
in the first half of the Zhou dynasty. Confucius established an ethical
philosophy, a system of knowing one's place and behaving appropriately to
preserve peace and order. Confucianism formed the basis of Chinese thought
and governed detailed study and civil service exams for the next two
thousand years and remains a strong influence today. Laozi founded Daoism, a
doctrine of accepting events as the natural flow and harmony.

But the influence of Confucianism on the behavior of the ruling class and
common people would come much later, long after Confucius died, for there
were still many wars to be fought as each of the seven warring states
struggled to conquer the others.

CHU, 1 OF 7 WARRING STATES

One of these seven warring states was Chu, in the region currently known as
the Hunan and Hubei provinces of China. A man named Qu Yuan (340-278 BC) was
a poet and minister, a trusted advisor to King Huai. Qu Yuan was known as an
honest man who spoke for the common people, remained loyal to his king and
fought the corruption in the king's court, thereby earning the envy and fear
of other officials.

The king of Qin (pronounced "Chin"), the state to the west of Chu, was known
to be powerful and ruthless, with plans to conquer the other 6 states. His
army of 1 million men was believed to be the largest ever assembled
anywhere. [He eventually did conquer the other 6 states, giving the country
the name of "China." He also had the Terra Cotta warriors prepared for his
enormous tomb to accompany him to the afterlife].

QU YUAN

Qu Yuan recognized the ambition of the king of the competing state of Qin,
and he arranged a meeting in Chu with the other states to form an alliance
to defend against Qin because together they would be strong enough to resist
Qin's dominance.

Meanwhile, emissaries from Qin sought an alliance with the king of Chu,
advising him to betray the other states. Qu Yuan strongly advised against
any such move because he suspected Qin would violate any agreement and
overthrow his home state of Chu. Qu Yuan advocated strengthening Chu's
military forces and allying with the other states to fight against the Qin.

When Qu Yuan urged the king of Chu to avoid an alliance with Qin, corrupt
court politics led others to whisper lies about Qu Yuan to the king, less
loyal subjects maneuvering for their own personal advantage. Eventually the
king of Chu believed them, he banished Qu Yuan to exile, and he betrayed the
other states by accepting a secret alliance with the strong state of Qin,
the very alliance Qu Yuan had warned against.

Qu Yuan traveled, taught and wrote for several years. He could have joined
another state and enjoyed privilege and wealth, for he was well respected,
but he elected to remain in poverty among the people he loved. Despondent
over his exile, he wrote some of China's most revered poetry, giving voice
to his affinity to the people instead of the power of royalty. His 25 poems
are preserved, comprising the eleven Odes, nine Elegies, Li Sao, Riddles,
Requiem, The Soothsayer and The Fisherman.

Eventually Qin did, indeed, violate their agreement and conquer Chu, and
went on to conquer all the remaining states to consolidate rule with an iron
fist.

In his despair at the loss of his country of Chu, Qu Yuan finished his last
poem - Huai Sha (Embracing Sand) - then he tied himself to a large rock with
a rope, threw himself into the Milou River to drown.

DRAGON BOATS

When the people who loved Qu Yuan learned what he had done, they took to
their dragon boats to find his body. These boats had dragon heads on the
front to help ward off evil spirits that lived in the river. They pounded
drums They poured realgar wine in the water to make the fish drunk and they
threw glutinous and beat the water with their paddles to scare the fish so
they would not eat his body. rice balls called zongzi to divert the hungry
fish.

That was the year 278 BC. Now every year on the 5th day of the 5th lunar
month, Double-Fives Day, Chinese people celebrate the memory of a great poet
and statesman and patriot named Qu Yuan by re-enacting the search for his
body in the Dragon Boat Festival. They hold races in which drumbeats sound
out the cadence for furious rowing by the boat's team. They drink realgar
wine, eat zongzi and other foods, and generally have a good time.

There are many smaller parts of the celebration, but above it all is the
proud memory of one of China's great heroes and patriots, one whose life
serves as an example of honorable living and service to country, the beloved
poet named Qu Yuan.

By Terry L. Garlock

Sunday, May 21, 2006

Am I Chinese???

Well, James firmly believes that he is Chinese. He says that we are what are family is. His brother is Chinese American, therefore, in the infinite wisdom of a nine year old, he is Chinese as well. Now, at first glance I wondered if my eldest had lost his marbles. Upon further reflection I learned that James is one smart cookie!

We began our initial journey to China in early 2003. We started our paperchase to bring home....well, Riley. (Okay... those of you who know us know Riley was a HUGE surprise.) During our paperchase, the wait and still to this day we have made it a big priority in our family to learn about China. We have learned about holidays, traditions, geography, history, culture and more. We have bought books, movies, artwork, clothing and more that all reflect and teach us about China. We have spent countless hours making sure China is part of our every day lives. We talk about China almost daily. We look over our hundreds of photographs and recount amazing memories of our journey to China.

Does this mean we are Chinese??? Now, I know we are not Chinese in the normal sense of the word... with all of it's usual conotations... but... if we have embraced so much of China.. then can't it be a little possible?

As I said previously, I originally thought poor James was going to be off to the funny farm any day. Now I think he was right on the money. I think each of us, in our little family, is just a little "Chinese". We eat Chinese food... even can use chopsticks. We celebrate Chinese New Year and the Moon Festival. We feed the dragon on New Years, sweep out bad chi and even use a few Chinese words in our everyday conversations. We love the country our son... and soon our daughter too, were born in. We can't wait to go back to see it again. We have books in English and Chinese in our home. We have chops, pearls, CD's and DVD's. We have pottery and Buddha. Elements of China are found throughout our home and lives.


Now, we are not Chinese in an ethic or patriotic way... but maybe in a way that makes China forever in our hearts. We are what are family is... hmmm... I like that.

Saturday, May 20, 2006

Children

Well, I am sitting here surrounded by my boys. Riley has a piece of string he is holding above his top lip saying mustache over and over again. I didn't even know he knew the word mustache. James is singing along with a very old Rugrats movie. Life is great. Some of my happiest times are when my children are just being children.

Things I love about James:
1. He sings VERY loudly with movies and the radio. (Don't you just love the reckless abandon of youth!)

2. He is very loving with his little brother. James will not leave the house without kissing his brother goodbye. Often his kiss is wiped off but it doesn't stop him from showing his love.

3. James is always the first to be by someone's side if they are in need. He is very caring and compassionate.

4. James tells VERY bad jokes. He loves to make up jokes, but honestly, they stink.

5. He will greet people he knows are important to his parents with a firm handshake or a hug. He is very open to accepting and meeting new people.

6. He loves a good book. He will laugh out loud with a funny part. He is an excellent reader.

7. James is a spaz. I love that!! It is just so endearing!

8. James is a bad dancer, but LOVES to shake his groove thing. He will get down and we will cheer him on. His moves are original... never seen anything quite like it before.

9. James will NOT spike his hair up. It must be combed to one side at all times. We keep trying to get him to spice it up a little... but no go.

10. James is the kind of child we could have only dreamed of. He is kind, caring, fun and loving. Who could ask for anything more?


Things I love about Riley:
1. Riley is feisty! He is a fighter. He will not let anything stop him from doing things that others think he can't do yet. He does not give up.

2. Riley thinks he is funny. I love this! He will do something and just crack himself up. I laugh every time.

3. He gives the BEST hugs. He will hug you so hard he shakes! He will grab ahold of your leg or arm and clamp down on you. He even gives a little grunt from all of the hard work!

4. Riley loves to be naked. It is crazy. We have to tell him 20 times a day to go put some clothes on. He looks at going to the bathroom as a chance to get naked.

5. He has the world's best giggle. It is deep and throaty. His giggle just makes you laugh right along whether or not you think something is funny. It is just completely contagious.

6. He LOVES getting his haircut. Riley got potty trained by bribing him with a haircut. Odd but true. He will sit for the barber better than anyone else I know. He thinks the barber is the next best thing to God.

7. Riley never stops moving. He makes the Energizer bunny look like a whimp. Riley does not walk across the room.. he gallops, dances, shakes his butt or does his funny walk. I am sure when he has to walk in line in Kindergarten we will be hearing from the teacher.

8. He loves babies. He loves pictures of babies, movies that have babies in them, seeing babies in other cars or at the store. If he can get near the baby, he always moves in close and says, "Helrow, baby!" He crouches down and uses a tiny little voice. It is precious.

9. Riley loves his blanket. He will kiss his blanket in the morning, when he gets home or just on a whim. He also asks us to kiss it. He does not have to take it places with him, he just loves it. For Riley, it is a special treat when his blanket comes out of the dryer all toasty warm.

10. If Riley had his way he would be on an airplane EVERY day. He loves them. He asks to go in an airplane in the sky almost daily. He loves to watch for them in the sky. He thinks driving by the airport is better than a toy store. Who knows, we may have a future pilot on our hands.

I do believe I am the most blessed mother ever. I was told I would never give birth and along came James. I was told you get daughters from China and along came Riley. I am so glad life has turned what we thought were lemons into the best lemonade ever!!

Friday, May 19, 2006

You Are Miss Piggy

A total princess and diva, you're totally in charge - even if people don't know it.
You want to be loved, adored, and worshiped. And you won't settle for anything less.
You're going to be a total star, and you won't let any of the "little people" get in your way.
Just remember, piggy, never eat more than you can lift!

Thursday, May 18, 2006

A decision

I have decided that I need some retail therapy. As of right now Madeline has a grand total of 2 outfits. This just doesn't seem right. I know we don't know when her referral will come but... gosh darn it, I can still shop, can't I?

A wise person once said: "If you shop, she will come." Isn't that how the saying goes??? I could swear that is what I heard! So, since I am not willing to risk not following such sage advice. I will shop.

I am thinking just three or four adorable outfits should satisfy me for now. That isn't too much to ask now, is it????


By the way... I am also thinking I need a new pair of cute summer sandals. How lucky I am that I am already planning on going shopping! This will save me a trip!



Okay... YES, the wait is driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!

M

Saturday, May 13, 2006

An Accidental Adoption

Have you ever noticed that you hear all the time about "accidental" pregnancies, but never about couples who experience "accidental" adoptions?

Can you imagine:

Honey, sit down. I have some news for you.

What is it?

Well, I don't know how to say this, so I'll just come out with it. I went out to the mailbox today and ... well, we got an I-171H.

A what?!? An I-171H? As in, we're going to have a(nother) baby?!?

It looks that way.

But how? We've been so careful! I put away all the blank I-600A forms. Didn't you hide our homestudy update?

Of course I did. But don't forget, there was that one night...

What night? (pauses) Ohhh, that night. But it was only once. We were just messing around. I didn't print clearly. I didn't even use ink! (pauses again) But it was kind of fun. (giggles)

It was, wasn't it? I'll never forget how cute you looked getting your fingerprints.

So now we've got our I-171H, eh? But that doesn't always mean you'll adopt, does it? I mean, shouldn't you see the agency or something, make sure everything's okay?

I already did.

And?

I'm five documents along.

Five documents!

And they're all notarized, certified and authenticated okay?

Just great.

There was one small scare when the agency couldn't see the Notary's middle initial, but it showed up just fine under the magnifying glass.

Thank God. And you, honey? Are you feeling okay?

I'm feeling fine. As long as I know you're happy about this.

Happy? I'm thrilled! It's always a shock at first when something like this happens, but of course I'm happy.

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

China... May 2004


Pagoda at Buddist Nunnery

White Swan Hotel

Boys with our AMAZING guide Cindy

Two Years Ago Today......

Two years ago today a miracle happened. In a hot, crowded room in Southern China, a woman called out Reynolds. Two nervous people moved to the front of the chaos. A woman entered the room carrying a beautiful little boy. The boy was wearing black sandals, black and white striped pants and an orange shirt sent to him in a care package from the other side of the world.

The woman handed the little boy to the nervous mother. The father showed the official paperwork saying that China was giving us the best gift in the world... one if it's precious children.

The mother kissed the quiet and confused little boy on the cheek. The boy responded by purposefully and deliberately wiping the kiss away. Who knew this was the first clue to a very entertaining little person who would fill our lives with love and laughter.

In the years before our adventure to bring home our son we never could have imagined traveling to the other side of the world. We never thought that our family would grow in such different and special ways.

James came to us through the miracle of medicine. Riley came to us through the miracle of adoption.

Life has handed us some of the most special blessings in the most special ways.


Riley was placed into our arms two years ago today. In some ways the time has flown by. In other ways it seems like it never really happened... the trip, the wait, the paperwork.. the ultimate suprise of a boy... it some ways it was the most natural thing in the world.

Jerry has commented many, many times over the years about a song that really sums up Riley for him. I agree... Sometimes I thank God, for unanswered prayers. Riley is our unanswered prayer. You see.. sometimes the things you pray for are not the things you need. Sometimes the plan is greater than the prayer.

Happy Forever Family Day!
Two years down... a lifetime to go.

Mary